About Me

 

How did I begin my journey to be a healer/therapist?

My spiritual journey could chase back on my undergraduate days. I started to read books about psychology, religion and philosophy to find answers to those cliched existential questions that I had since I was a child. For instance, what the meaning of life was, where I was from before this life and where I would go after I died, what the purpose was for my life etc. I went to my first silent  10 days Vipassana meditation retreat after I read the book from S.N. Goenka, The Art of Living. At that time, I was 20 years old. That retreat has been one of the biggest life changing moments for me until today. I experienced the power of mindfulness and a sip of spirituality, which has become one of the most important elements in my therapy work today. 

Luckily, with the guidance from many mentors in my real life and masters from books, such as Buddha, Zhuangzi, Krishnamurti, Huaijin Nan (one of the famous spiritual teacher in China who passed away in 2012), Tsai Chi Chung (the famous Cartoonist from Taiwan that transform those Zen stories and eastern wisdom into animation) etc, I felt that I was much less confused and had much less existential anxiety. 

 

​But stories are stories, knowledge is just knowledge if you never really experience it from your own life experience. I found myself still pitiful and suffered in so many ways. For example, relationships, either relationship with my family, my partner, my peers, authorities, system and the society; and the most important one, the relationship with myself. So, how to resolve it?  And I was convinced that reducing suffering and achieving inner peace were the most meaningful and hardest work to do. That's the beginning for me to decide to start my own healing and also, to be a healer. That's why I chose to be a Marriage and Family Therapist since relationships could be a really good starting point.

 

I went to California Institute Integral Studies Integral Counseling Psychology program which draws upon the major spiritual traditions of the East and West, recent cultural and social sciences research, and the innovations made by contemporary psychoanalytic, humanistic, systemic and transpersonal psychologies. That program is experiential, culturally sensitive, and centered on the inner work necessary for becoming a healer. During the program, I not only learned the skills to be a healer, but also, I did so much healing work there. I was really drawing into how the intersectionality of my gender, culture background, sexuality, economic status etc impacted a person's overall well being.

 

Why Beginner's Mind?

On my journey of becoming a therapist and exploring the meaning of life, I found that life can be seen as a non ended “game” as long as you are still alive.There are so many games you can play, and so many ways to play one game and you can always work on to be a better player. Especially in the 21st century, we have created and are constantly creating more games and tools for every one to play or use everyday. That's why it is so important to have a beginner's mind,  a positive attribute that refers to having an attitude of openness, eagerness, and lack of preconceptions when studying a subject, even when studying at an advanced level, just as a beginner would. 

 

There is one more definition of the beginner's mind in Chinese, the reason why you start. When we are getting into our life journey (playing the game) more and more, most of us get lost on why we started it from time to time. 

In therapy or in my daily life, when I get stuck and I always find a way out by simply asking myself, “why did I start, what did I really want from the beginning, did I keep an open mind?” I also invite my clients to keep this in mind in our therapy since without a beginner's mind, change or choices are rare.

Two Dried Leaves

All real living is meeting.

Feeling one "has"; love occurs.

Spirit is not in the I, but between I and You.

― Martin Buber, I and Thou